Picking up. The rise of phone sex during lockdown

19 April 2021

Soulja Boy was playing it coy when he said ‘kiss me thru the phone’. In 2020, more of us were taking to the phone to get our freak on, while social distancing had us apart. So as we enter 2021 (let’s hope that’s not the only thing), are you using phone sex to fill the gap while you can’t get hot and heavy in person?

And why not…

Phone sex is hot.

It’s fun.

You can do it anywhere.

And it’s safe!

Now, if the frustration is getting to you but you’re nervous to join in the fun, we’re here to help! Phone sex can be a voice call, a facetime or video call, or a one-sided call (where only one of you talks while the other listens and takes time to enjoy themself). The only rules are only do what you want to do, when you want to. And there are so many benefits…

Phone sex lets us open up – enjoy the freedom to get exploring

Just because you can’t be with the one you want doesn’t mean you can’t get to know one another better. Use phone sex to keep things spicy, explore your own body and get to know your partners turn-ons. Take the opportunity to take your time and explore your body too.

It’s perfect for masturbating to – time to get to know yourself better

You’re here to pleasure yourself, so you can completely indulge in your own body’s wants and needs. The more you’re enjoying it, the better it’ll be for the other person too – it’s really win-win. Remember to communicate your pleasure, whether that’s talking them through what you’re doing to yourself, how that feels or what you’d like them to do to you.

Fantasy land baby – let your imagination do the talking

Now’s the time to try things in your fantasies you can’t, don’t want, or aren’t ready to do in person. Phone sex is all about your imagination, so let it run wild. It’s the perfect time for role play too, whether this is part of your IRL sexual menu or something new.

Send your favourite porn clip – watch together while you’re on the call

Really ramp things up and get all your senses going. Find your fantasy played out, a favourite porn clip, or something new and send the link to your phone-sex partner just before and watch it together while you’re on the call. Use it to start the chat, to fantasise over, or to inspire. The additional stimulation really heats things up and can make the experience feel more intense and shared.